Have you ever been at a crossroad in your life and it seemed as if things were out of your control? That’s where I was 7 years ago. My life took a drastic turn. I can say this turn was for the better, even through some of the circumstances that lead to the transition was something more than devastating. Even within the uncertainty, a new door had opened to an amazing and adventurous life, one that I was excited to enter and hopeful and optimistic that things would turn out for the best. I had learned an important lesson: don’t start a new business unless you’ve done extensive homework!
Now, 7 years later, I am seeing déjà vu! Except the devastating event is not from a failed business. I think it’s from a lack of a magic word.
While in a Barnes and Nobel today, I felt led to read a book titled, The Magic by Rhonda Byrne. You may know her from the hit movie, The Secret. The Magic, promises that one word can change EVERYTHING!
After reading the introduction, this paragraph stood out to me:
” If you think, “I don’t like my job,” “I haven’t enough money,” “I can’t find my perfect partner,” “I can’t pay my bills,” I think I’m coming down with something,” “He or she doesn’t appreciate me,” “My child is a problem.” “I don’t get along with ____,” “My life is a mess,” …. then you must attract more of the same experiences.”
It is because according to the Universal Law, like attracts like. So, what is being attracted is more situations to dislike the job, more situations that decrease money reserves, more situations to keep the perfect partner away, more situations that creates your child to act in a particular way that is displeasing, and so on.
Byrnes states that the magic word is, Gratitude.
Now, I thought, like Byrnes thought too, that I was a grateful person. I said please and thank you all the time. When good things came, I would say to my higher power or God, “Thank you so very much for….,” many, many times. However, I also had the automatic tape playing in my head how life is hard and a struggle. Abundance would play hide and seek with me continually. For a while, things had begun to improve and for a long period of time, I was experiencing abundance! I got higher paying clients, new financial opportunities came my way, things I needed would almost instantly come to me. In retrospect, I’m not quite sure why things had changed for the better because I wasn’t any more or less grateful. It could have been because I was applying so many prosperous thinking strategies. I’d go to sleep listening to wealth subliminal. I would wake each morning and pray and meditate. The invitation to free seminars on creating more money would be something I participated in regularly. One wall in my home was dedicated to all my goals. I would write a goal on a post-it-note and when a I would achieve a goal, I would put on lipstick and ‘kiss’ the post-it and write a big fat, THANK YOU! on it and I would say verbally, thank you, thank you, thank you. Now, that I think about it, perhaps I did have more gratitude. All I know is everything started to dry up as soon as I got my dream job!
The Dream Job
The opportunity came so suddenly and I was flabbergasted! An opening at a large corporation became and I was selected above many other applicants. My salary increased by 100%. I had my own office with a magnificent view, I had an assistant, and other wonderful perks. For the first time in a long time, I was doing work that challenged me, made me feel I was giving and contributing more, and most of all, I felt free! Finally, I was on the path to true wealth and abundance.
Then, out of the blue, I was told my position would no longer be supported due to budget cuts and it was unavoidable. Just like that, my dream job was gone!
I was devastated and for 2 weeks I was basically numb. All I could do was cry. How did this happen? This was my favorite job and I loved it! Yes, there were some things that kind of bothered me. But, I tried hard not to focus on them, like the lack of employee participation due to the governing structure and I didn’t feel appreciated.
There was an employee that would speak doom and gloom about our jobs daily and would say that our jobs could be pulled from under us in the blink of an eye. No matter how much I would stand my ground and confirm that I would no longer live in fear of my of losing my livelihood, secretly I would go to bed each night unable to sleep.
My job required a lot of local travel and I was fearful of getting into a car accident. Even though I would say a reassuring affirmation whenever I would drive, secretly, I was living more in fear than in gratitude.
Due to the demands of the position, I didn’t have time to put new goals on my wall; therefore, I had stopped the ‘kissing’ my completed goal ritual. I no longer meditated early in the mornings or listen to my nightly wealth subliminal. I guess I felt I didn’t need to any longer. I’m not sure what I was thinking.
It was as if all of life’s abundance had stopped flowing. It was like life was a big giant bathtub filled with the water of abundance and I had pulled the plug and let it all out.
I realized this much too late and now I am faced with my mistake and not much time to turn things around. That’s why I think I was led to this book. I truly feel it is an answer to my prayer of restoration and the reason for this experiment or what I call, The Magic Project.
Byrnes gives a passage coming from the gospel of Matthew in the bible that has been misunderstood by many people for centuries.
“Whoever has will be given more, and he will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what he has will be taken away from him.”
She states it may sound as if it means the rich get richer and the poor get poorer. But what is missing is the magic word...
“Whoever has Gratitude will be given more, and he will have an abundance. Whoever does not have Gratitude, even what he has will be taken away from him.”
When I read this, it was like was a switch was flipped and I finally ‘got it.’ I never heard it explained this way before. And for some reason, everything flashed before my eyes and I knew what I had been doing wrong.
Byrnes says, it doesn’t matter what religion you are, all religions have gratitude at its core. Giving or saying thanks is one thing, but feeling thanks is another for it is in the feeling that things begin to magnetize and expand.
Also, when we don’t give gratitude it is like we are taking from ourselves. You can’t keep taking and taking and taking without giving and then expect to be given things in abundance. We are giving, when we express gratitude and when we don’t, we are taking from ourselves, which results in loss.
After reading a couple of chapters in the bookstore, I decided I would take Byrne up on the 28-day challenge suggested in her book.
Why am I taking this challenge for all to see? Because, I want to believe in miracles. Like a child, I want to see magic in my life. I want to be real with you and open my heart and my life. Lastly, I want to demonstrate to the Divine (God), that I can be a grateful person and I’m asking for another chance.
If miracles begin to happen to me as a result of this experiment, perhaps it will help you too. Just thinking about the process is opening my heart already!
Here’s how it works. For 28 days there are daily exercises or practices that must be done everyday. Each practice is easy and quick. If you forget a day, then the momentum stops and you have to go back THREE days to get the momentum in full force again. (I love how the accountability creates consistency). Each day you perform easy exercises that don’t take much time out of your day. The promise is immediate results!! Yes!!
In this section of my blog, I will record each day the blessings of abundance I experience and share it in a brief synopsis. Feel free to leave comments, suggestions, and if you are doing it too, share what you experience.
Day 1 begins with stating what you’re thankful about. The law goes like this; you must be grateful for what you already have and what you have received in the past in order to receive more. After writing something you’re grateful for, writing the reason why your grateful helps to produce the feeling of gratitude and it is in the feeling where gratitude expands and attracts like energy creating more abundance, love, and happiness.
Some exercises are done in the morning and some at night before going to sleep.
Here is my Day of Count Your Blessings: Write 10 Things You’re Grateful for and Why?
- I am so happy and grateful for being led to finding the book, The Magic because I’ve always wanted to be more grateful but didn’t know how and now I will have the opportunity to learn.
- I am so grateful and thankful that even though my car is having problems, and I don’t know how things will turn out, I know that everything will be ok because there is always something good that comes out of challenging situations.
- I am so grateful and thankful for having a wonderful rental car because it helps me take care of my daily responsibilities while my car is being serviced. I am getting a family rate making it affordable. (thank you, B.)
- I am so grateful and thankful for the wonderful salad I had today at the restaurant on the intercostal because having fresh vegetables and protein and looking at the beauty of nature makes me feel appreciative for life.
- I am so grateful and thankful for finding a mechanic that services my particular foreign car who is honest, caring, and reputable because it makes me feel confident that things will be serviced properly.
- I am so grateful and thankful for my family because of the love we have for each other, the support we give one another, and for knowing I always have them to care about.
- I am grateful and thankful for having a mentor who has helped me with support, encouragement, and kindness because this type of support helps me to expand greater as a human being.
- I am grateful and thankful for a free Millionaire seminar titled, the 67 Steps by Tai Lopez because, the knowledge I am gaining from this self-made young millionaire is priceless.
- I am so grateful and thankful for the spiritual revelations that are being revealed to me especially at this time of my life because when times are challenging it is nice to know I am not alone.
- I am so grateful and thankful for a friend who referred me to a wonderful income opportunity because it is challenging finding the perfect work and her speaking on my behalf opened the door of possibility.
So, these are my 10 things I am grateful for. I have many more, but Byrne states to do 10, so that’s what I will do. Sometimes magic happens simply from following directions.
I’m not sure what the future will hold for me when this crossroad comes to a conclusion. I know what I want to happen. I know what I think the highest good for me should be. Yet, there is a higher power that is not only outside of me, but also inside of me and since this power is inside of me, then perhaps it’s not too late.
I did some research on the symbolism of no. 7. It is the number of completion. It is the no. that signifies the end of the old and the start of something new. 7 years ago, my crossroad ended in a new and exciting adventure. If I calculated right, the next 2 weeks will bring in great miracles because it is the end of the second 7th year crossroad for me. And if I didn’t, then I am prepared and surrendered and in the least my heart will have grown bigger from this experience.